Editor’s Note: We first published Jake’s story in July 2020. It is now a year later, we felt (and Jake agreed) that the timing was right to share his story again. Jake is one year into having “fired” his homophobic side and if you’ve followed him on Social Media, you know just how amazing his life has become. If you’re new to his story, have a read and then check him out. It’s a beautiful journey.
I’m coming off a high. I just fired someone, and it was one of the crowning achievements of my adult life. I made sure to make a scene of it too by gathering everyone into the conference room, laying out a long list of offenses, and walking him out of the room and building to never return. It was awesome!
Nine months earlier I came out as gay to my wife of 13 years. I married her with the best of intentions, desiring to do all that was expected of me as a man in...
I am battling my own ghost. How do you fight yourself? You know all your best moves. You know how she’ll react to any given situation. And when you emerge the victor, have you actually won? Because you just trashed yourself.
My ghost is beating me right now. My 18-year-old son and I went on a walk last night. He leaves for college in two days and I wanted his opinion on how to handle a situation with his 12-year-old sister. We’re not communicating well and I can’t figure out how to fix it. With four kids in total, I needed help.
“It sounds familiar, Mom,” he said. “I think she’s at the point where I was just a few years ago. I didn’t know how to communicate with you in a straightforward way. I felt like I had to strategize and plan so that I wouldn’t get in trouble. I think she hasn’t learned she doesn’t have to do that anymore.”