I thought obtaining a perfect credit score was impossible but by some miracle, I finally have an 850.
Not many people in my life know that I was a victim of financial abuse by a person that I was in a relationship with from age 23 to 26. He maxed out my credit cards that originally had no balances on them and he stole a boat and 5th wheel travel trailer that were only in my name. When I finally ended the toxic relationship, I came home to an empty apartment after work one day. He obviously didn’t take it very well so he did as much damage as possible before he fled from our state with my money and personal belongings.
He left me in financial ruins. I was in 6 figures of debt, I had $800 more in expenses than income each month, and more money stress than I can describe. I felt betrayed, suffocated by debt, and totally hopeless.
Like so many other LGBTQ+ people, I didn’t have anyone to help me financially so I taught myself how to create and follow a...
Q: How does a woman who doesn't realize she's a lesbian, woo another woman who doesn't realize she's attracted to women either? Or how does a presumably straight woman entice another presumably straight woman?
A: Just like any woo-ing, it's all about the humor. We all know that laughter is the predecessor to love, regardless of gender and sexuality.
Early in our relationship, before the fateful first kiss, all I knew is that I wanted her to look at me, talk to me, laugh at my jokes. Her laughter, you guys! It was like the best buzz on earth, making her smile and laugh at me.
It was a few weeks in that I finally realized how big basketball is/was in her life. She had played all through childhood. By high school, she was on traveling club teams in addition to her school team. She received multiple college offers and it paid her way through her bachelor's degree.
But I was in trouble with this realization. I...